(Continuing in my week of autumn colors, today is brown.)
Feels like October, doesn't it? If you're reading via a reader or email, click in if you'd like to see October's banner - a still and quiet one this month.
Today marks the beginning of breast cancer awareness month. In recognition of this, a few things I'd like to pass on from my experiences with breast cancer. (More about my breast cancer history here.)
After my diagnosis, I had a friend say to me, "I can provide a place for your relatives to stay. I can bring meals. I can provide frequent flyer miles for people to use to come see you." I really appreciated the offer of specific help. I had lots of general offers of "let me know if there is anything I can do", but found it hard to ask for what I might need. Or even think of ways that people who wanted to could be supportive.
Check in again and again and again. Chemotherapy usually lasts six months or more.
I hated going to chemotherapy alone. Not everyone feels this way, but consider offering to accompany a friend or loved one to chemotherapy, radiation or a doctor's appointment.
You don't need to be really close to someone to be really helpful. Someone I didn't know well at all - had only met her a couple of times prior - brought me a week's worth of meals a couple times a month for most of my chemotherapy.
Thanks for listening! xoxo