Thursday, March 4, 2010

lately

Lately I've been feeling like I spend too much time alone. It's the flip side of being able to 'be home' with my children - when they're at school, I have things I need to do at home, alone with my cats and my thoughts (and my podcasts - thanks for the recent recommendations!). I am introverted by nature, but am realizing, after months of the boys being in school all day (this is the first year they've both been in school), that my life feels somewhat isolated. Yesterday I went to a coffeeshop to read for a bit after taking the kids to school; that helped. And I'm trying to schedule more things with friends, even if it means I get less 'done' at the end of the week.

How's your week thus far?

16 comments:

Frau said...

I know how you feel all to well. I'm trying to do the same. It's easier for me when the weather is nice. I'm looking forward to the weekend...spring clean and start fresh. Have a wonderful day!

kks said...

i think it is harder for a mother to enjoy the time she has alone, especially with such young ones, after so many years of being completely focused on them 24/7...enjoy the few hours a day that you have to yourself, renew your spirit...you are such a wonderful mom, you deserve this time to rejuvenate YOUR soul...:)
xoxo

Sammi said...

I worked from home for 3 years in my late teens/ early 20s not good for me. I used to end up going out to see friends late at night and ending up ruining myself for the next day. Now I work full time away from home I never see anyone outside of my work!

Paige said...

I know how you feel - I'm not a social butterfly, but have found that it's so important to make time for weekly connections with friends and other moms - it matters a whole lot and is so nourishing.

Francesca said...

You do very well to schedule things to do with friends. There must be so many things to do in your area! I'm still in the phase where I'm actually craving for a little time by and for myself, time to start AND finish the many projects I have in mind.

Kwana said...

I like being home and alone but I can understand how you feel. You have to find the balance that makes you happy.

Deidra said...

I enjoy the time alone. It's when I renew. But I hear you and understand the feelings of isolation. It's good that you've recognized it, and taken steps to balance things out a bit. I think that...even for us introverts...we all need connections with other from time to time.

Ina in Alaska said...

".... getting things done"... those things will get "done" in time. I believe it is more important to reach out so you do not become even more isolated. You will be surprised at how your schedule will shift to accomodate everything. Take a deep breath, you are such a hard, diligent worker in all phases of your life. My mom told me how she watched a very beautiful Victorian-age hotel at the Jersey Shore meet the wrecker ball. She said someone lovingly polished its windows and floors, but now it is all gone, and for what.... It made am impression on me... take time for you, dear. xoxo

jenna @sweet fine day said...

seeking out the company of others takes effort, but the rewards are so great. Yes, you should absolutely continue to schedule plans with friends -it has made all the difference for me this year as I also spend huge amounts of time by myself working. xo

Purple Flowers said...

My week so far has been very sad. I just found out yesterday that a dear friend died of melanoma. It was a long drawn out illness,and she suffered terribly. I miss her. We were travelling art museum companions. Champagne was our drink of choice, and our conversations - wonderful. I'm sorry to put this on your blog. I know I can't post it on mine; it would be too upsetting. Thanks for listening.

Char said...

the ending of the week has been much better than the first. hope yours is too - i like going to the coffee shops when i'm feeling isolated.

Chai Ling | Singapore said...

I admire the 3rd photo :)It makes a wonderful Friday; sitting in my office, reading your blog, viewing all these photos you took. Lecia, thank you for sharing such a gift. Yeah, I told my husband, your blog is a gift. a motivating one. <3

Joyce said...

I don't have children and find myself spending more time at home then I did a few years ago. I actually like it, connecting with nature around me and yet I enjoy my girlfriend time too. I figure it is OK to let a very dust bunnies come out and play from time to time. xo

KPiep said...

Once again, I wish we were close enough to spend time together! I've been feeling the same way lately...probably having a wee bit of Mommy burn-out, truth be told...and could use some time with friends!

nicola@which name? said...

i am the opposite. not nearly enough time alone.
balance is always good.
hugs,
nicola
htp://whichname.blogspot.com

alice c said...

How clever of you to recognise the signs before it becomes a problem. As a stay-at-home mother for 13 years I realised that I had become so used to my own company that it was an enormous effort to look outward to other people outside my family circle. I work outside the home now and appreciate the companionship of my work colleagues every sigle day.