Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Remembering Granddad

(me and my Granddad, 1976 or 1977)

My grandfather, Granddad as we called him, passed away on Monday. He had been declining over the past couple of years, and the last few weeks were particularly hard for him, and my family. He was ready to go. In talking to my grandmother it's clear she's relieved he's now free of pain and in a better place.

I can't speak to what kind of a husband or father he was, but I can tell you about the Granddad he was. He was tickling, coca cola in glass bottles, swimming in the river. He laughed easily, and played with us tirelessly when we were kids. As we got older, he never shied away from asking me or my cousins a question he wanted to know the answer to, sometimes much to our surprise or embarrassment. When there was silence around him it was comfortable. He loved The Price is Right and most game shows. He had a deep faith and a great sense of duty to his family and his community. My first driving experiences were with him - first a tractor, later a pickup truck. He had a sweet tooth and liked Little Debbies. I got my compulsive urge to vacuum from him, but never picked up his quirk of drying out the shower.

He will be much missed.

17 comments:

kks said...

what a lovely tribute to your granddad....so sorry for your loss..
xoxo

Barbara said...

How wonderful to have had a grandfather you will always remember with such love.
Please accept my sympathies.

Char said...

i'm so sorry for your loss. i loved your description of him. especially the little debbies.

sending warm thoughts and hugs.

Kwana said...

I'm so sorry about your grandfather. What a beautiful tribute to him.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for these beautiful, touching memories of our Granddad. I was touched by this elegant walk down memory lane.

I remember Granddad's laugh, a deep chuckle that made me relax and feel that all was right with the world. I remember how nice he looked in a dark suit when he was going to church, especially when he was wearing his dress hat. Going out to the farm with Granddad to feed the cows, who would come running when he honked the horn of his pickup truck. Playing in the salt fork of the Red River and making mud pies on the back patio, happy as a clam. Sweets tasted better when I ate them with Granddad because he liked them so much. He made me my first coke float. I remember that he was careful with his possessions and had a great sense of duty and responsibility toward God, family and community. I was deeply touched when Granddad bought a new suit to wear to my law school graduation because I knew it meant that he was proud of me. As an adult, I enjoyed doing the dishes with him. I found it relaxing to be around him, and enjoyed the things that he would periodically break the comfortable silence to say. He lived a long, full life with strength and dignity.
-Your sister

jenna@sweetfineday said...

so sorry for your loss, Lecia, but what wonderful memories you have of him. Thank you for sharing them.

Purple Flowers said...

You wrote a lovely tribute about your Granddad. I hope your memories continue to bring you good thoughts and happy feelings. He is at rest now.

emily said...

thinking of you, lecia.

likeschocolate said...

I am sorry your grandfather passed away. I will say a prayer for your family.

Valerie said...

I'm sorry Lecia, so sorry.
I have an idea how hard this is : I was raised by my grandfather and he was one of the msot important person in my life. I was in the US when I "felt" him passing probably because the bond was so strong (my explanation).
No doubt he was proud of you & I'm sure that sharing time with you made him as happy as the memories you recall today.
I'm sending all my sympathy to your family and will be thinking of you.

KPiep said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep your family in my prayers as you go through this quiet, sacred time.

Paige said...

Your Granddad sounds like he was a wonderful, memorable man...I'm sorry to hear of your loss. A big virtual hug to you, Lecia!

Nicola (Which Name?) said...

I am sorry for your loss, Lecia. You might print this post out for your grandmother. She would probably love it.
Warmly, Nicola

Ina in Alaska said...

Beautiful memories Lecia, both from you and your sister. Your grandfather sounded like a sweet man, much like my own grandfather who died when I was 16. Grandfathers are very special, and I express my sincere sympathy to you and your entire family. With love, Ina xoxo PS my word verification is "misses"

A Day That is Dessert said...

Thank you all so very much. xoxo

jenny said...

Lecia, your words brought a tear to my eye! I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds so much like my grandpa, who also taught me to drive. I feel like I know you better now by hearing about him. I'm sorry I didn't see this sooner to send you love. Big hugs.

Francesca said...

What a beautiful and loving tribute, Lecia! I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm sending warm thoughts.