Friday, October 22, 2010

on no particular schedule

When our boys were younger, Alexi and I hired a sitter every Saturday night so we could go out on a ‘date’. The advent of children gave more ceremony to our time together than I ever felt when we were actually dating. I would look forward to it during the week, make a reservation somewhere. When the time came I'd dress up, and we'd hold hands as we walked from our car to our destination, a little giddy about being alone together. And eating food that someone else prepared. I tended to order a cocktail – something I never made at home, and something that elevated the evening to luxury status, given that at home meals were often rushed and included tired, sometimes cranky infants/toddlers. The drink felt symbolic of a completely unhurried occasion. Now, time and circumstances have changed such that we still go out, but not as often. We plan or are spontaneous with our time together at home, whether it be watching a movie after the kids are asleep Saturday night, or chatting while they're playing at a neighbor's, or having lunch out on a school day when Alexi's off. And unlike when the boys were really little we now live by the water, so just being at home itself often feels a little like being on vacation, if we stop and appreciate what’s in front of us.

Last weekend I made ginger sidecars from a recipe I saw in the October issue of Martha Stewart Living. I made them in a moment that epitomized the feeling of a perfect weekend: standing barefoot on a sun-drenched floor, on no particular schedule.

Ginger Sidecar

Slightly adapted from October 2010 Martha Stewart Living

Place sugar on a plate. Run an orange slice around the rim of a glass; rotate the rim in the sugar. In a cocktail shaker, mash two ¼ inch thick slices of peeled fresh ginger with a muddler or a wooden spoon. Add a 1-inch piece of orange zest, 2 ounces brandy, 1 ounce cointreau, 2 tablespoons freshly squeezed lemon juice, 2 teaspoons maple syrup, and ice. Shake well, and strain into the prepared glass. Makes 1.


likeschocolate said...

We are just starting to find time together after so many years of my husbands crazy work schedule. It is nice and is a treat when I have just more than a few moments of his time.

Megan Gordon said...

Lovely post, Lecia! Funny how time slowly changes habits and routines...and nice to know now that as the boys are getting older, you and Alexi are finding more time together. Sometimes the unplanned moments are the best--as I'm sure you know. Happy Friday.

Kelly Johnston said...

I can totally relate. And that cocktail looks mighty good :)

Ina in Alaska said...

Oh yummy cocktail! Sounds luxurious, stylish and casual at the same time.. I picture you and Alexi enjoying cocktails, candles and conversation. Lovely combination! xoxoxo

Denise | Chez Danisse said...

What a lovely treat. A home on the water...a fabulous cocktail. Who needs to go out?

KPiep said...

I will soon get my one cocktail for the year when we go out for our anniversary. I look forward to it...but oddly it's the only time I ever want that drink.

We've been discussing the need to create more couple time. Now that I have extra kids in the house for part of the day I feel like I'm back to the early days when I'm just depleated by the end of the I believe it's really important to focus on fixing that right now.

jenny said...

That sounds amazing! Anything with ginger is good by me. And I really need to renew my Martha subscription.

susie said...

Lecia, thank you for this recipe the day I had a small dinner party! I have a few comments about he drinks:

1. They are delicious and pack a wallop. One is enough!

2. A proper muddler would have really crushed the ginger better than a wooden spoon did.

3. On the advice of a Sidecar-obsessed acquaintance, I used Remy Martin cognac rather than brandy. YUM.

Francesca said...

How wonderful that you can go out on dates, and also find moments to spend time between the two of you at home. It's a good time in (family) life when children are a little older.