Sunday, December 19, 2010

where we're at

Around the time of any given holiday, I have a tendency to wish that I had a large extended family nearby, to romanticise that notion. Cousins for my children to play with, pre-established holiday traditions to look forward to, always having a place to go. As a child I spent many Christmases at my grandparents' home, along with a houseful of cousins. We all had our own personalized felt stocking hung on the mantle made by our grandmother, and a handmade doll or stuffed animal or something similar to look forward to on Christmas morning, as part of the general joy and chaos of the day. It can leave me feeling a bit melancholy, living in a city so far from any family, with no traditions other than those we make for ourselves. So we muddle along. Sometimes family visit us, and there are friends who feel like family we spend time with. This week, we're skiing at Whistler with another family. We did the same thing the week before Christmas last year (different location). So I'm happy with this tradition we seem to be building. I hope my children will remember fun times as a family at Christmastime, along with whatever else evolves over the years.

5 comments:

KPiep said...

It's so funny how different memories can be. We did have the extended family thing when I was a kid - and I hated it. Of course, our cousins were 10 years older and 10 years younger, and we were not particularly close with those grandparents....Nevertheless, we loved it the most when we had our cozy times at home with just our family and my mom's parents.

A Day That is Dessert said...

I thought about that - it's easy to romanticize the notion of a big happy extended family, even if it's not the reality in every circumstance. I don't really know what it was like for my parents/aunts/uncles - they may not have liked it....

Hayley Harland said...

My family has always been a bit rubbish about coming together, we have a rather large extended family but they always seem to leave our little nook out, which would leave quite a bitter taste in our mouths.

Then one boxing day we decided to spend it with some very old friends and just our immediate families and it has become tradition ever since. We play games, drink and be merry and thats the part of Christmas I really look forward to every year.

I hope you have a lovely one. It looks beautiful where you are at.

Francesca said...

We're also hardly ever with our extended families at Christmas, but the five of us are together, which also doesn't happen all that often. And, we're also in the mountains right now! Ciao!

Valerie said...

You say so beautifully what I feel, although I've never had any large family event as a child, Christmas included -- but never missed it. Now I do, probably because of what you explain here and because I feel the (happy) responsibility for building traditions and memories for our daughter.
A little pre or post Christmas break, just the three of us, has become one. We'll be on the plane in a couple of days...
Have a nice Holiday season xo