Sunday, March 13, 2011

Sunday night.

We have had such a good weekend.

Alexi's father is here visiting. I can see him in Alexi, in Abbott, in Cal. He's been teaching them a few things, and perhaps they've taught him a thing or two as well.

His father has been sorting through things at his home, trying to decide what to save from his past, what we would like to have. As we were falling asleep last night I told Alexi how melancholy it makes me feel, having to make those kinds of decisions. I have so many pictures from my maternal grandmother, many of them of people long gone before I was born. I save them, care about them, because they are important to her, because she is important to me and has told me stories about the people in them, time and time again. (And she has carefully labeled them all.) I understand who they are in relation to who I am. What will happen to these pictures when I'm not here to care about them any longer, and who will remember those stories? I think it's time to pull out the albums and start sharing them with Abbott and Cal so that they, too, have a connection with this part of their past, will have a reason to want to preserve them. I'm hoping their grandfather will do the same thing with them; start to tell them some of his stories, share the pictures, to keep them alive.

8 comments:

KPiep said...

Old photos are true treasures, and I'm sure your boys will come to love yours as much as you do.

Elleta said...

Love this post...I never put much importance on the photos that mom gave me. I think it was because I really didn't feel any connection with the faces in the pics. However, as I have gotten 'older' I am seeing myself in many of those faces. They do have a place in my life. I will pass them on to Jennifer, hoping that she too can make a connection. Now that mom has reverted to that childhood that she once lived it makes the pics from that time much more meaningful and part of my life. Thanks again for the post. Love you, your Aunt

Darcy said...

After my father died, I spent days going through my grandmother's old photo albums. She had carefully labeled every picture - detailing everyone's relationship to my father, so I started to make a family tree and found pictures of my great great great grandparents. It was impressed by how much time and effort she invested, obviously hoping that one day someone would be interested. She's been dead for over 25 years and after viewing all her work (and her life, really) I wish I could go back in time and hear the stories to go with the pictures.

Char said...

i lost all of my photos in a move two years ago and it makes me sad, but more aware of the family photographs i take now.

Denise | Chez Danisse said...

Family photographs are such a treasure. I am the keeper of my family's photographs. You've inspired me. I think it's time for a review of the big box.

cate said...

lecia, if anyone will be able to convey the importance of photographs to her children, it is you. you are so lucky to have these. my mom and grandmother both don't like to hold onto to anything and are completely sentimental. it's like being the family story teller when you have these pictures... you hold the threads and pass them onto the right person in the next generation. such a lovely post. (and yum, is that green tea ice cream?)

Francesca said...

I have old family photos that used to be my grandmother's. Most faces and placed I don't know. But some I remember from stories she used to tell me. Family photos, and the narrative that goes with them are a good way to keep traditions and roots alive.

Erica said...

I've been thinking about this post all week. I am the family historian of sorts, finding out about our roots and documenting our near past and present. As stories were told to me by my grandparents in the past few years I have been writing them down, on scraps of paper in a folder and in a computer document, but this post reminded me of something that I've been meaning to do: get those stories somewhere where they are accessible forever...a scrapbook or something...so that when my computer eventually crashes or needs to be upgraded or the scraps of paper are lost, all will be safe for future generations...thanks for the reminder :)