Tuesday, July 19, 2011

remembering


Last week, I updated my cell phone contacts for, I think, the first time ever. Lately I've found, with some regularity, I don't have a number I need. I encounter names in my directory that are only vaguely familiar, that I must have added at some point for a one-time purpose, and now clutter the system and make it hard to use. As I was working, adding and subtracting, I came upon my deceased Grandmother Wolf's phone number. I paused and sat for a long time thinking about it, about this discovery. My friend Greg called as I sat there, lost in thought. I told him what had just happened. His mother died a few months ago; I knew he'd understand.

11 comments:

Magatha-May said...

very true. I keep my cousins number in my phone even though she passed away from cancer over two years ago. It's just a little reminder of her in my life.

alwaysokc said...

I do the same with all of my grandparents addresses that are in my address book. Can't bear to cross them out and each year, while I'm address Christmas cards I think about each one of them unexpectedly.

cate said...

hugs. i keep my dear friend lucas' number in my phone and his email address in my address book. he died nearly 5 years ago. i'm not sure that i will ever be able to delete his info. now, i get spam emails from his address. oddly, i find it very comforting.

Sammi said...

*hugs* my grandfather's phone number is still in my phone. so is a friend of mine who looked after me in the first few months that i was in fuerteventura. she was diagnosed with cancer and died very quickly. i don't think those numbers will ever be deleted from my phone.

Christina said...

such a beautiful post.

KPiep said...

I would have kept it, too. Small reminders can be really wonderful.

Lyndsay said...

I just read a quote on someone's blog recently that to take away the pain, you would have to take away the love. Your last sentence made me think of that. Sweet post.

Denise | Chez Danisse said...

I like your idea. An excellent reason to save.

Francesca said...

When my best friend died, her eldest son started using her SIM card, which at first seemed "wrong" - or at best "odd" - to me. Now it seems like a natural carrying on of life.

jamsandwich said...

The opportunity to take a few moments to remember a loved one is such a blessing.
After my darling dad died I found it so difficult to change the phone speed dial from Nana and Grandpa to Nana. (I shall never again be able to cook the risotto I was in the middle of when I got that dreadful call). But as my camellia bursts into flower I am reminded of him and his beautiful garden.
Each time I weigh out ingredients I think of my beautiful friend Blaithin who gave the scales to us on our wedding day 20 years ago and unfortunately died early this year.
What is important when we are gone is the relationships we made and the lives we touched.

Tammie said...

a small reminder such as this will help keep her with you a bit longer. i say go for it.