Thursday, September 22, 2011

Thursday


For most of my life as a parent, I've heard next to nothing about anything from their day apart from me. So I've grown accustomed to saying, 'It's nice to see you', and then telling them: 'I listened to the Radiolab podcast about games...' or, 'I walked around Green Lake today, with Molly' or, 'While I was at Target this morning, I stocked up on all things Halloween - facial tissue! Marshmallows! Glow in the dark teeth!'. Keeping up my end of the conversational exchange; giving them the space they seem to need. Then one day, recently, one of them started giving me glimpses of what weighs on him, bit by bit, day after day. 'I'm worried about this.' 'This makes me self-conscious.' 'Am I ok?' Those very same questions that every person who has ever made it through childhood has wrestled with, in some way or another. Yes. Yes, you are OK. And I am here for you. Always.

5 comments:

Francesca said...

It's the same with my boys, they'll always reply with a generic "well" when I ask them how their day went. My girl, on the other hand, will burst out with all sorts of details about her (rare) time apart from me as soon as she steps indoors! I hope all three of them will be able to talk about the important things, when the time comes.

Yiota said...

You've no idea how much I needed to read this today!
Thanks for sharing...

Dawn M. Hamsher said...

There is nothing better than conversation with your child(ren). It is music to a mama's ears.

KPiep said...

In light of the recent round of illnesses in my house, I've been working with Gillian to get her to open up a bit more. Sad to see a third grader starting to stress about life, and when the third grader inquestion is an independent little thing who's never shared the little details.....well, let's just say that has to change.

As for the little one, she's always been an open book. It's a delight to hear her tales of kindergarten...it's as if our family is finally experiencing it for the first time!

Love to you and the boys. I know they a going to grow up to be wonderful, caring young men because of you.

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