Sunday, August 12, 2012

the twists and turns life takes



At the beginning of the summer, some of our closest friends moved to the east coast. Several months ago we changed churches, after nearly 20 years. The combination has left me feeling somewhat adrift this summer, perhaps because I'm also not seeing the familiar faces of the other parents at school. It’s good to have people in your life with whom you share a history. Serendipitously, we just reconnected with friends with whom we’d lost contact for no good reason. Their kids happened to be enrolled in a sailing/kayaking camp with Abbott and Cal last month. In a follow-up email exchange, I had the urge to allow my sheepishness at my failure to be in touch get the better of me, but I didn’t.

We went to their house for pizza, their preference, to keep it simple in the wake of her recovering from a minor surgery. The four kids vanished immediately. As we had cocktails - they made us something they'd tried recently in New Orleans, equal parts lemon juice and gin with muddled sage and some sugar, over ice – we talked about her surgery. The surgery she’s recovering from is the final of several for reconstruction after breast cancer surgery, and I found myself discussing the particulars of my breast reconstruction and how I felt about it; a first, in mixed company. I found that I was completely comfortable doing so.

I brought a salad with grapes and bacon and curried cashews, and lettuce bought that morning at our neighborhood farmer's market. She’d made a salad of arugula, watermelon and goat cheese. They’d made a berry ice cream that happened to be perfect with the almond cake I brought for dessert. It was a northwest summer evening at its best. Hot enough of a day that the humidity-free air remained warm, as it grew dark.

13 comments:

beth lehman said...

that sounds so good...

Tracy said...

Exactly.

KPiep said...

Your post is particularly timely for me. We have also been rather adrift this summer...For reasons also pertaining to people we know.

katiedid said...

It sounds like you may have landed on a new little island of new friendship!

Anonymous said...

I would love the recipe for your salad - curried cashews?!?! lovely post as always!
Karmen in MN

tara thayer said...

lecia, i've been so absent, as you may or may not have noticed, around the usual places. i'm so glad i stopped in here.
the post is beautiful, of course. and your blog-the scrolling header!-is breathtaking.

but i really just wanted to say that i didn't know about your health issues and admire your frankness, and wish you all goodness.

xo,
tara

redemptionsbeauty said...

When I read your words, they make me feel like exhaling all the cares of life. Loved being here.

Jillian said...

It's so very easy to lose touch. Serendipity is one of my favorite concepts. Love you all. Have a great night.

XO
J

Nancy Franson said...

Just found your blog, recommended by friends. Loveliness here.

Kayla Poole said...

I read a lot of blogs and very, very few rival yours in quality of both written and visual content. I always leave your space feeling thoughtful and fulfilled.

Lecia said...

Hi friends -

Thank you so much for your thoughtful comments! They mean the world to me.

Karmen: I've added a link to the salad recipe; I modify it based on what I have on hand to use. Thanks for the reminder.

xoxo Lecia

Anonymous said...

thanks Lecia for the salad link - it looks so good & I cannot wait to try it -- all the ingredients save the frisee are already in my kitchen!

Genevieve said...

Lecia, your writing and photographs are beautiful as always. My husband and I left our church a while ago and are still searching for a community, for friends. It's not easy, is it?